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Is counter-offer remorse real?”

ESS Candidate Newsletter – NOVEMBER 2022

Columbus, OH – NOVEMBER 2022

In this month’s, ask the recruiter, we talk about counter offers.

Introduction – Aaron Wandtke
Recently Filled Jobs
Ask the Recruiter – “Is counter-offer remorse real?”


Thanksgiving is the beginning of the holiday season and historically, November and December are two of our busiest months of the year. Companies have budgets to spend and hiring managers do want key roles filled before the new year. So don’t wait until the beginning of 2023, now is a great time to look and start your job in the New Year. Companies are fully committed to filling their openings.

This month’s “ask the recruiter” is the result of a new trend we are seeing, and we want to raise awareness and equip people if they find themselves in this situation. If you have thoughts or other experiences you would like to share, please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Lastly, if there is anything I can do to support your hiring needs, please let me know.


“We want to give you a promotion. We want to give you a retention bonus. We had you chosen to champion a big project. You are targeted for a new position.” These are the phrases people are hearing more and more when they submit their resignation. In today’s competitive market, employers are saying just about anything to make sure someone does not leave, or at least not until the employer has found a replacement. The problem for the employee is that they may burn a bridge with the employer they are rejecting and often, the promises made by their employer rarely happen, which unfortunately is becoming more and more common.

Below are some suggested questions to ask when faced with a counteroffer.

  1. Who else have you given a counteroffer to recently? Knowing how often companies give counter-offers will tell you if this is a standard operating procedure or truly a unique situation.
  2. Who can I speak with who accepted a counteroffer the last year? Learning firsthand what people have experienced after accepting a counteroffer will provide the clearest picture of what you should expect.
  3. When should I expect these promises to be completed? Understanding the expectations puts everyone on the same page. Getting this in writing will also help you while being able to hold the employer accountable.
  4. What happens if I don’t receive them by the date discussed? The answer to these questions will likely involve more than the person you are speaking with. Making it clear you are willing to stay if all these promises are met by a specific date helps everyone understand the expectations.

Resigning with your employer is an emotional process. Employers know this and may also respond emotionally. By knowing what questions to ask and preparing yourself for all the possible outcomes, you are equipped to digest the information and make the best decision for your career.

If you need help or other ideas about this, please call or email.

I can be reached at 614-885-8490 or by e-mail at